You might think that after two years that the "bonding" process would be complete, but we are learning that it takes a long time for a four year old to truly attach and trust a new family. As strange as it may seem, a year ago I would have placed us further along the bonding continuum than I would put us now. Not that we have moved backward in the process, I have just become more aware of Marcus's insecurities and fears. The past two years have taught us all a lot :-) This road toward wholeness for him and healthiness for our family is a long road with lots of twists and turns. We see progress, but more frequently we see more that needs to occur. I have no doubt in my mind that when it's all said and done, Marcus will grow up to be a healthy, trusting individual.
I am certainly not despairing. God has been very good to us and He is more than capable of meeting all our needs in this area and every other.