Happy Birth Mothers' Day

Today, the day before Mothers' Day, some people in the adoption community have declared as Birth Mothers' Day.  A day set aside to honor and show appreciation for our children's birth mothers.  Just as you do not appreciate and honor your biological mother only on Mothers' Day, we do not just appreciate and honor our kids' birth moms on Birth Mothers' Day.  Nonetheless, I wanted to publicly bestow praise and appreciation upon the birth moms of my kids today.

We have been blessed beyond words, beyond what most people can comprehend, by not just the children God has placed in our home, but by the birth mothers and birth families that He has entwined into our family.  You see, for us, our kids' birth moms are not just someone who gave birth to our kids, they are a part of our family, grafted onto our family tree through the branch of our child.  We LOVE our kids first moms as we love the rest of our family.  They are not "those people" they are family.

Since our kids' birthmoms read my blog (hi, guys), I want to speak directly to them today -

Ladies, we love you!  You are precious to us in ways too numerous to count.  We had NO idea that when we adopted your children we would have the added blessing of having each of you become part of our lives.  Not only have our children benefited and thrived by your presence in their lives, we each have benefited and been blessed through you.

Today, I want to thank you again.  I want to thank you for choosing LIFE for your child/children.  For seeing them as a child and not just a choice.  I want to thank you for the months you carried these precious children.  Caring for them by taking care of yourselves, even though your lives were in turmoil at that time.

I want to thank you for making the courageous and unbelievably selfless decision to place your children for adoption.  For having the faith to entrust their care and life into the hands of people you barely knew.  Your faith in a sovereign God who would look out for them and help you make the right choice is commendable.    Thank you for being willing to allow your heart to break into a thousand pieces to do what you felt was right for your child.  There is no way for me to truly understand that kind of pain, that kind of self-sacrifice.

Thank you for continuing to share your lives with us.  We are so excited for each of you and what God is doing in your lives.  I hope you are proud of your kids.  They are unique and amazing individuals - wonderful to behold.  Just like their moms.